Deciding the Right Time to Move
Posted Monday, May 4th, 2020
Knowing when it’s time to move an aging parent out of their home and into a facility that provides a safe and appropriate level of care can be tricky. You don’t want to take them out of their home–and away from their independence–before it’s necessary, but you also don’t want to wait too long and jeopardize their health or safety.
There are many logistical and lifestyle factors to consider, including:
- The type of home they currently live in and the upkeep it requires
- Whether they live alone or with a spouse
- How long they’ve lived in their current community
- How strong their support and social network is
But there are also several signs that can indicate it’s time to make an immediate move–for their safety and happiness, as well as your own peace of mind.
While every situation is different, and you know your parent better than anyone, here are some signs that it’s time to think about alternative care or living solutions:
- A lapse in home maintenance and routine tasks. Unpaid bills, a decline in housekeeping skills, and declining personal hygiene can indicate that your parent is overwhelmed and needs help.
- Driving mishaps. Scrapes and minor dents to the car indicate their driving skills are diminished–even if they don’t recognize it.
- Changes in behavior. Avoiding social activities, abandoning hobbies, withdrawing or isolating, and showing increased mood swings are symptoms of emotional health concerns or early dementia.
- Declining memory and cognitive skills. Trouble managing finances, missing appointments, repeating conversations or asking the same question over and over all point to a need for additional care and supervision.
In some situations, the symptoms may be subtle and slowly get worse over time. Exploring options at the earliest signs of concern is always your best bet–when your parent is able to better understand and participate in the decision. But you need to take immediate action and consider a move right now if your parent has any of these behaviors:
- Wandering. Leaving their home at odd hours or getting easily lost can put them in immediate danger.
- A decline in mobility and stability. Balance issues, frequent falls, or trouble climbing the stairs or even making the bed are red flags that their safety is in jeopardy.
- Mismanaging health needs. Not taking medication properly or an inability to manage chronic conditions such as diabetes means additional care is needed.
- Aggressive or violent behavior. Radical behavior changes, especially if they involve aggression or violence towards themselves or others, requires immediate intervention.
If your parent shows any of these symptoms, you know that it’s time to make a move.
Not sure where to start? Assisted Living Locators can help. Give us a call today and a local care advisor can meet with you and your parent to help you determine the next–and best–step to take.